With some people magic just happens, likened to the ease of a running stream communication just seems to flow. There is no rhyme or reason to who or why. God picks her own moments to experience who we are. When to love another as thy self does not need to be a commandment for in truly loving ones self we are another, just another part of the whole.
When to say yes and no, discerning the only true pattern of God which is love. We play as her children, some of us need to be closer to others for a while as we grow and learn. Some of us wander finding home where ever we go. Living in a world without fear can be a frightening thought, a taunting gesture to one who has never known a world without fear. But in the heart we can all know such power of beauty love who's unity dispels all fear.
That what we feel also feels us is all that unselfish means. Life is not given and then in three score and ten is taken away. It is renewed with every breath and sealed with God's kiss which is yourself