For quite sometime, I had been trying to better understand unconditional love-a few weeks ago; as I was sitting quietly-this information came to me and I thought I would share it
"Unconditional love happens everyday, all over the planet. Everyone in some form or another gives and receives love. Unconditional love is not something that is expressed solely by words-saying "I love you" is one form of expression. It is also expressed through friendship, through laughter and giving support and encouragement. Love is also shared through thought.
Love itself has no definitive form. Unconditional love is an energy that one expresses and holds and it just "is."
This can sometimes be difficult to understand because of the attachments and associations, concerning the expression of love. This is why some people can sometimes feel uncomfortable when it is expressed to them. In such instances; a smile or an act of kindness is way of expressing it.
It is simple; hold the frequency of love and the intention in your heart and it will be expressed. Love is something that comes from within and moves outwardly. Love is an energy that one chooses to willingly share and it is the most powerful energy."
I agree with what your aunt said, but i think it is important to understand that love is not the only energy out there. While unconditional love of its own is unconditional, there are many other unconditional and conditional emotions & experiences out there that can influence us.
I like to believe that life is the combination of a lifetime of choices. Some of which we believe untainted, others which we claim we had no choice in, but regardless of the influences they are still our choices to make.
Many people seem to believe that love is an easy choice to make, but often it is a challenging one. I think the important thing to understand though, is that it is not only a choice, but it is your choice.
No matter how bad the world gets or how much it can hurt, and no matter what everyone else is doing, we always have the ability to make our own choices. Whenever you get in an argument with your significant other next, please remember this. You have a choice. You can focus on the problems and all of the other influences out there, or you can focus on that one energy which can remind us all why we're here to begin with. If you can make the choice to truly love someone unconditionally, and value that above all of the other influences out there, then all you need to do is remember that choice, and hold true to it, and rest assured, it will always be there.
Some believe that there is no unconditional love, that if we analyse our love deep enough we will find a movite/reason/condition for our love. Others believe that only God can love unconditionally. My understanding of unconditional love is, to love without reason or cause, there is no reason for me to love nor is love merited, I just love you as you are right now without condition or expectation.
Lots of thinking there, or as a wise man once told it: `My lover rings me up and tells me how much he/she loves me, I am so happy, for a moment. Then the thoughts begin, why does he love/she me? how much does he/she love me, why did he/she ring? will he/she still love me tomorrow? on and on depending on how crazy my mind is. What just happened? because of my crazy thoughts I missed a beautiful moment, instead of staying in the moment I was away with my questions and negative thoughts, I was not present to the moment and let it slip away.´
My point is that while it is good to think about what love is and to ponder the many wonderous mysteries around us it is more impoprtant to be in the now and enjoy the moment, in this case the gift of being loved.
To love without reason or expectation, thats a good definition of unconditional love! Also to love when love is not deserved. For me this type of love is impossible, as I know deep down that I am loving for a reason whether its to be loved, liked, needed, or even for reasons I am not aware of. But I do love and am loved and it is good even if it is not unconditional.`It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.´
I also agree that there is no need to explain or analyse, just enjoy the moment. This is something I have learnt, I always want to be sure of everything and I was so busy trying to analyse and cover all the `what ifs´that I missed so many possible special moments.